What are your biggest challenges?

One of the biggest challenges I am currently facing is being able to delineate what is and should be within my control and what isn’t.

I am a fixer. If a friend or loved one is hurting, I immediately jump in with words of encouragement. I am available, always. I am a punching bag, if needed. If they are spiraling out of control, I give them my parachute. I give, more than I take.

We all know how this story ends, don’t we?

So right now, my biggest challenge is learning how to lend an ear, without feeling like I have to solve anything. To make myself available, only if I have the capacity to hold space for that individual. To understand that I am not to blame, nor should I have to pick up the pieces of someone else’s actions. To ensure my health, mental and otherwise, comes first. To only nurture relationships capable of reciprocity.

Oh, and another pressing challenge… not to single handedly eat this entire crock of New Year’s Bagna Cauda. :-O

Happy 2024, my dear readers! 

~Cari~